(San Luis Obispo)
Nearly 5 years ago,at the age of42 yrs old.; my wife of 25 yrs, suddenly developed full blown Paranoid Schizophrenic behaviors.(Her father is diagnosed with this.)She refused to acknowledge her illness,or responsibility for her actions. She became physically and verbally abusive to me and our teenage daughters. I had to get a restraining order after putting up with her behavior for several years. We were unable to force treatment for her, She was teken to SLO county mental health services 2 times on 5150, but released.Prior to the onset of her symptoms, she was a model citizen. Now she has been homeless for the last year and a half, and been in and out of jail for numerous minor offenses and probation violations. Still refusing court ordered MH evaluations and treatment. When she goes for evaluation she does not give the Dr. permission to talk to family members and does not get proper treatment. She would rather be homeless than acknowledge her illness. And we(the Family) have been powerless. One of the big hurdles seems to be that she gets rejected for treatment at the county facilities because she has medical insurance, They say she needs to see a private Dr. But She doesn't keep appointments, or doesn't tell them the truth about what is happening to her. She has had a preliminary diagnosis of Schizoaffective diorder, she wouldn't accept it and refused to take meds. She was evaluated in jail as paranoid schizophreic by 2 Drs., but refused treatment. In the mean time she lives on the streets and it appears that there is nothing we can do about it.
Thank you for writing. In case you haven’t already exhausted your local resources, here are a few agencies from the Network of Care’s San Luis Obispo County Behavioral Health Service Directory http://sanluisobispo.networkofcare.org/mh/resource/find.cfm that might be able to offer you alternatives/suggestions in finding help for your wife:
Hotline of San Luis Obispo County
Transitions Mental Health Association
NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) San Luis Obispo County
Good luck and I hope this has been helpful. If you have any other questions or comments about Network of Care, please don’t hesitate to share them.
Assistant Client Relations Manager
Network of Care
Daniel Van Gilder
she needs your LOVE, not your judgements of her being "ILL"!!
for all people hate to be judged sick, or not sane, if you love her to health, then she will listen!
another try = leave her "up to god" so he can care for her to have her then run to you for help, as any alcholic or doper does, leave them to go to their bottom to ask for help!
you are scaring her away, and write her a special note explaining your points of view!
i would not want to be locked up cause i'm sick neither!! figure out another way, like:
LOVE HER AND DO GOOD TO HER
(LIKE, LET HER LIVE IN YOUR HOUSE, NOT TAKEN TO ANY DOCTOR!) your love can heal her, not a doctor! forgive and forget her illness, give her a good place to stay and live, NOT judging her as "sick"! we also not like to be called "sick"! ((accept our illness))!!!!!!!
for perchance she will never become "well", so love her the best you can!! - love me too -